For a good number of people, there is nothing that beats first date jitters. In reality, being slightly anxious before a date is in no way wrong or “strange”. However, if you get panic attacks at the thought of a date or meeting new people, then that is a whole other issue that needs to be addressed.
First date anxiety is mostly due to a number of factors, though almost all can be traced back to ones mental state.
Thinking like, will they like me? Am I going to be interesting enough? Is it going to be a horrible experience like last time? Am I going to live up to their expectations? Are they going to live up to my expectations? Am I going to meet my soulmate? The list is endless!
If you are not careful, all these questions and worries may end up consuming your day and causing you to have a very unpleasant time! As a result, you must find ways to relax prior to the date. There are very many relaxation techniques that you can use to but the butterflies in your stomach at a halt. Some of these small tips include:
- Breathe in and out for two minutes before walking into the restaurant. This helps to calm you down significantly!
- Getting ready on time to avoid having to rush at the last minute. You may risk looking disheveled and disorganized. Remember first impressions are everything!
- Pick out your outfit early enough and go to the salon a day before if possible. Looking good will make you confident and confidence counters anxiety. Remember first impressions are everything!
Things to Remember
When going for a first date, there are also a number of things that you ought to remember which will help to make you calmer and more collected during the date.
Your Date is Also Nervous (Most Likely)
As a human, there is nothing as reassuring as knowing that you are not alone! Just as you are nervous for the date, your date is most probably just as nervous or even worse! They also face the same worries as you in relation to what they should expect during the date. Therefore, do not get too scared, you are not alone!
Every First Date Is an Experience and a Story
Every first date is either the beginning of a story or a story in itself. This means that you will either meet the person you will end up with forever or you will have a story to tell your friends for days to come! Moreover, with every first date, your dating experience improves. This therefore means that you will over time be less and less anxious for first dates. This ought to give you enough morale to get started.
You’re Worth the Date
For a first date to happen, it means that someone wanted to spend more time with you in the first place. Therefore, feel confident and know that you are worth the date and more importantly, your date should be honored to have you. This is the best way to beat any feelings of anxiety or imperfection.
Energy Can Be Read
No matter how nervous you might have been on the date, never worry about whether you were funny enough or interesting enough. In fact, most first date stories are not always the best. If it is meant to be, then you have nothing to worry about since your date most likely read your energy.
You Cannot Control Everything
You are not in control of the date situation. Whether your date likes you or not is all a matter of preference on their part and has nothing to do with you as a person. Therefore, why waste countless hours worrying about it?
With all this in mind, you are now ready to go for your first date, simply relax, do not trouble yourself by overthinking scenarios, instead have fun and you will be perfectly fine!
I’m a nightingale singing sweet songs in the night!